Post #3
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Janice Dayle wroteon May 14, 2009 at 8:12am
I agree with Godsway Shumba and I certainly don't think that social networking platforms are to be seen as places to seek sex.
In the case of the anonymous posting above, the two had been communicating for a year...and that seems to be enough lead time to get to know each other, so their decision to become intimate should not be surprising. Of course, it would be important for them to be sexually safe with condom use, but there doesn't seem to be anything wrong there.
Facebook is what you make it for yourself. if you enter the arena with a carnal mind, then that is where you will stay...and those are the relationships you will seek.
If you are interested in promoting your agenda - be it community building or a profitable venture, then Facebook works well for that too.
It seems a bit narrow-minded to consider Facebook as Sexbook. Users do as they wish and there is a very wide variety of users.
For example: I just linked with a project via a Facebook group. It is called the Namuwongo Literacy Project and I plan to volunteer in Uganda this summer to teach elementary school.
All this happened on Facebook...and I do not see anything 'sexy' or promiscuous about that.
Perhaps the friends of the above writer should join and look for similar projects to become involved in...
DITTO GODSWAY...VIVA FACEBOOK THE AMAZING CONNECTOR!
In the case of the anonymous posting above, the two had been communicating for a year...and that seems to be enough lead time to get to know each other, so their decision to become intimate should not be surprising. Of course, it would be important for them to be sexually safe with condom use, but there doesn't seem to be anything wrong there.
Facebook is what you make it for yourself. if you enter the arena with a carnal mind, then that is where you will stay...and those are the relationships you will seek.
If you are interested in promoting your agenda - be it community building or a profitable venture, then Facebook works well for that too.
It seems a bit narrow-minded to consider Facebook as Sexbook. Users do as they wish and there is a very wide variety of users.
For example: I just linked with a project via a Facebook group. It is called the Namuwongo Literacy Project and I plan to volunteer in Uganda this summer to teach elementary school.
All this happened on Facebook...and I do not see anything 'sexy' or promiscuous about that.
Perhaps the friends of the above writer should join and look for similar projects to become involved in...
DITTO GODSWAY...VIVA FACEBOOK THE AMAZING CONNECTOR!
Post #4
Merit Rumema wroteon May 14, 2009 at 8:22am
I thought facebook was a network of people you already know, not new ones, anyway, people meet in strange ways. What's amaxing is the speed in which folks are so ready to hop into bed. Whether facebook or zimchat or whichever forum, people are meeting. Even on the bus from S.A to Zim, people just meet and next thing is sex.
What a shame. I think people have this mindset that it will never happen to me but man, are they in for nasty surprises when they are ready to settle down and they test HIV positive.
Guys, jus be careful
What a shame. I think people have this mindset that it will never happen to me but man, are they in for nasty surprises when they are ready to settle down and they test HIV positive.
Guys, jus be careful
Post #5
Merit Rumema replied to Janice's poston May 14, 2009 at 8:26am
You are so right, its about your attitude wherever you are, whether on Facebook or work or anywhere else. If you are looking for sex you will surely find it, eben in the most "unlikely" of places.
Post #6
Tangai Mapfumo wroteon May 14, 2009 at 1:15pm
i think its just personal dont blame it on facebook.how abt those tagged, meeet me and e.g botswana dating even on news 24 i think u see these dare to meet me.
maybe rather with internet people just become too liberal.
bt just one advice to all face books users there are sme chats/comments that are rather personal/offensive and shuldnt be posted on the WALL bt be btwn the two or so concerned people
i rest my case
maybe rather with internet people just become too liberal.
bt just one advice to all face books users there are sme chats/comments that are rather personal/offensive and shuldnt be posted on the WALL bt be btwn the two or so concerned people
i rest my case
Post #7
Jubie Benkie (Zimbabwe) replied to Godsway's poston May 15, 2009 at 5:06am
I can't agree with you more, Sekuru! We should not blame who make the tools, but it's just MIGHT be a misappropriate use of the tool that we should blame, if ever we should blame it. We view these tools in a different way, recently I read an article which said that recruiters are now also using facebook to find out about the personality of their prospective employees, which in a way may be a good use of the tool as well. Inga vamwe pavakaona sadza, vakaona zvinogutisa asi vamwe vakaona pekuroyera! >>LOL >>> VIVA facebook, sekuru, ndinemi ipapo!!
Post #8
Kevin Mazorodze wroteon May 19, 2009 at 1:54am
ladies and gentleman,
i have been following this discourse since i posted that article on behalf f my Anonymous colleague... to be honest with you guys, i agree with all the points that you have been raising but i just thought it should be great to leave a room to accept that to some point... indeed facebook has become sexbook... that was an honest account from someone who decided to be anonymous (for various reasons)... in that regard.. can we not say from an ad-hoc approximation.. i dont know what statistics people like Jubilant would call it.. that it is happening to some people although in my own capacity i cannot determine what percentage is the of the people who meet (different sexes on facebook) are ending up in relationships.. what is important and what is difficult to detect is the percentage of those who will use protection or not in this instance.
I find facebook a very good tool for networking and other resasons... but if demerits of a tool are starting to become visible.. can we not leave room to say that there's something wrong with the tool??
Food for thought!!!
i have been following this discourse since i posted that article on behalf f my Anonymous colleague... to be honest with you guys, i agree with all the points that you have been raising but i just thought it should be great to leave a room to accept that to some point... indeed facebook has become sexbook... that was an honest account from someone who decided to be anonymous (for various reasons)... in that regard.. can we not say from an ad-hoc approximation.. i dont know what statistics people like Jubilant would call it.. that it is happening to some people although in my own capacity i cannot determine what percentage is the of the people who meet (different sexes on facebook) are ending up in relationships.. what is important and what is difficult to detect is the percentage of those who will use protection or not in this instance.
I find facebook a very good tool for networking and other resasons... but if demerits of a tool are starting to become visible.. can we not leave room to say that there's something wrong with the tool??
Food for thought!!!
Post #9
Amber Phalen (Thailand) wroteon June 10, 2009 at 11:18am
Just to add a point, there are now - since the dawn of Facebook - many imitations out there that are actually designed specifically for hooking up sexually. I believe there IS already a site called Sexbook.
I would agree with all the points mentioned above - Facebook is simply a tool for social networking. What kind of "networking" you want to do with it is purely up to the user. And as Janice mentions in her post, there are great things that can be done with the tool - take a loook at the dialoge generated already by one simple story you posted, Kevin! If not for Facebook we wouldn't even HAVE a SAFAIDS page here!
If a carpenter takes his hammer and builds a brothel rather than a house, are we to blame the hammer?
I would agree with all the points mentioned above - Facebook is simply a tool for social networking. What kind of "networking" you want to do with it is purely up to the user. And as Janice mentions in her post, there are great things that can be done with the tool - take a loook at the dialoge generated already by one simple story you posted, Kevin! If not for Facebook we wouldn't even HAVE a SAFAIDS page here!
If a carpenter takes his hammer and builds a brothel rather than a house, are we to blame the hammer?
